Wednesday, December 3, 2008

Love Dare Day #2

Well, crap. This stuff is gonna be harder than I thought! So love. Well, lets just say I guess I only thought I knew all love is defined by. So yesterday's dare was to refrain from saying anything harsh or unkind and show patients of some kind.

Well, to live with my hubby the Chief you have to have patients. HE IS THE MOST FORGETFUL PERSON I HAVE EVER MET! I have to think for him on a daily basis, so I was thinking how God MUST have knitted us together 'cause I have a memory like a freakin' elephant. So I did bite my tongue once yesterday evening, I thought I would get through the whole day without even an opportunity I even at the ladies meeting commented that I hadn't even seen the Chief so I was "off the hook", well ha ha on me.

I get home and there lies all the Chief's hunting clothes including this 50lb. abominable snow man suit, in the floor of the bed room. O.k. I had bathed all five and took them to church in their p.j.'s thinking ahead that I would be running way past bed time when we got home. I cleaned up the house, and three out of the five had fallen asleep on the way home. I brought all 5 in ALONE, took off shoes ALONE, placed three heavy doodlebug hinnies on the top bunks (ALONE), Put DB #1 in bed and did prayers x's4 ALONE. Then nursed one screaming infant (of course) ALONE! Walk into the bedroom FINALLY to put DB #5 down and there is a HUGE pile of hunting crap on the just set me off, really it did and had the Chief been there I would have failed the dare completely I just know it.

I put all the stuff away, but it took me about 30 minutes. I went through...I am gonna call him, then, I am gonna text him, then. I am gonna put it all in the bed on HIS side...then, a little voice saying "it's only day 1" . So I cleaned it all up. I did and never said a word.

Here's where I struggle, I guarantee you he never took note. That just kills me!

Now today's dare is on love. I have two quotes that stood out to me.
1. Love in it's truest sense is not based on feelings.
2.You will never learn to love until you learn to demonstrate kindness.
Dare:In addition to not saying anything unkind to you spouse again today (what??? Again?) do at least one act of kindness.

So I was thinking that my picking up the clothes (act of kindness) and NOT saying anything (dare #1) I had just killed two birds with one stone! Yea me! I am a day ahead!

I am half way kidding. I haven't seen my Chief today except for a brief moment. I did however let him nap (he works two jobs) and didn't ask him to grill tonight (I have this thing about raw meat) and I started the grill on my own and put the chicken on and everything. I hope he comes home before I go to bed so I can fix his plate. If not I will probably lay his clothes out in the morning or something like that.

So love comes softly ( I loved those Janet Oake books) but it really does. The way Joel and I love now is so different from the way we loved before we were married and well into our marriage as well. Love is learned, it's practiced, it's really not a's an action. So do, do, do...and you will discover love, love, love.


Sandy Toes said...

wow..good for you..inspiring for me!
-sandy toes

Jen Talley said...

I love reading your posts. you are so freakin funny!!!!

He And Me + 3 said...

Very good. Boy, that whole scenerio sounds all too familiar. I would have lost it too. Good for you! I am impressed already. Does he know you are doing the love dare?

Shannon said...

Good stuff! You've given me a lot to think about.

Ashley Griffin said...

okay, several things.

first... i would have totally blown it too. because even if i had cleaned it up, i still would have said something about it later.

two... change the colors on your counter. i can't read them.

and third... i can ice skate a lot! i mean i can ice skate like a freakin maniac!!! (i'm laughing as i typed that)

Alicia said...

Oh my gosh, your post had me smiling the entire time!!

Good for you for biting your tongue!! I did remembered Day #1 yesterday, but my hubby hasn't been feeling good, so it has been easy to let things go.

Day #2, acts of kindness. I shall do that! I will rub his back w/ out him asking FIRST!! Yoohoo!!